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A Marital Exercise - Ways A Husband May Express Love To His Wife (Part 3/Final)

Here is a marriage exercise taken from a workbook titled "Building Marriages God's Way" designed by Faith Lafayette Church in Indiana.

The Exercise:
Evaluate the way you you express love to your wife. Circle the ways you are neglecting. Ask your wife to go over the list and put a check mark in front of the ways she would like you to express love. Ask her to add other things to the list.

You may express love to your wife by:

31. Fulfilling your responsibilities.
32. Being sober but not somber, about life. Having a realistic, biblical, positive attitude toward life.
33. Discussing plans with your wife before you make decisions, and when the plans are made sharing them fully with her, giving reasons for making the decisions you did.
34. Thanking her in creative ways for her attempts to please you.
35. Asking forgiveness often and saying, "I was wrong and will try to change."
36. Actually changing where and when you should.
37. Sharing your insights, reading, good experiences with her.
38. Planning for a mini-honeymoon where the two of you can do whatever you want to do.
39. Relating what happened at work or whatever you did apart from her.
40. Noticing and expressing admiration when she wears a new dress or tries a new hairstyle.
41. Expressing appreciation for her parents and relatives.
42. Thank her when she supports your decisions and cooperates enthusiastically.
43. Asking her to have sexual relations with you and seeking to be especially solicitous of her desires. Express gratitude when she tries to please you.
44. Being willing to see things from her point of view.
45. Refusing to "cop out," "blow up," attack, blame shift, withdraw, or exaggerate when she seeks to make constructive suggestions or discuss problems.
46. Keeping yourself attractive and clean.
47. Establishing a family budget.
48. Trying to find things to do with her. Plan a date night. Provide time for intimate conversation.
49. Remembering to tell her when you must work late. Schedule a weekly check in with her to coordinate your calendars.
50. Spending time with the children in play, study, and communication.

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