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A Marital Exercise - Ways A Husband May Express Love To His Wife (Part 1)

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Here is a marriage exercise taken from a workbook titled "Building Marriages God's Way" designed by Faith Lafayette Church in Indiana.

The Exercise:
Evaluate the way you you express love to your wife. Circle the ways you are neglecting. Ask your wife to go over the list and put a check mark in front of the ways she would like you to express love. Ask her to add other things to the list.

You may express love to your wife by:

1. Functioning as the loving leader of your home.
2. Frequently telling her you love her.
3. Giving her a regular amount of money to spend in any way she chooses.
4. Leading family devotions regularly.
5. Smiling and being cheerful when you come home from work.
6. Helping her wash and dry dishes.
7. Taking care of the children for at least three hours every week so that she has free time to do whatever she wants.
8. Taking her out for dinner or to do some fun thing at least once a week.
9. Doing the "fix-it" jobs she wants done around the house.
10. Greeting her when you come home with a smile, a hug, a kiss, and an "Am I glad to see you. I really missed you today."
11. Giving her a lingering kiss.
12. Frequently patting her on the shoulder or fanny or holding her hand or caressing her.
13. Being willing to talk to her about her concerns and not belittle her for having those concerns.
14. Looking at her with an adoring expression.
15. Sitting close to her.

Husbands, make your wife first place in your life and show it; second only to your relationship to Jesus Christ. If she senses she is not first place, she will doubt your love and become insecure. How may you find out her place in your life? Ask yourself this: what means more to you:

-Your wife or your children?
-Talking with your wife or sex with her?
-Your wants or her needs?
-Praying with your wife or praying with others?
-Helping other people or helping your wife?
-Your work or your family?
-church activities or family needs?

Your wife knows when she is not cherished or not uppermost in your affections. She knows what you delight in more than her. Consider 1 Peter 3:7 and expressing love by meeting her needs.

Prayerfully engage with these considerations and stay alert for 15-30 next week. May God strengthen your marriage through this exercise.

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